In dating, we all want to have a happy relationship. We want our significant other to respect us, be happy and fulfilled.

No one goes into a relationship trying to be miserable. But in reality, many people in relationships are miserable.

Especially in marriage, after so much time together, it becomes stale. You have spent years together, you both know everything about each other. All the likes, dislikes, even quirks.

If you aren’t continuing to grow together, you will start to fall apart.

In most relationships when it’s falling apart, the woman wants to end it before the man does.

Why does this happen?

When I say picture you and your significant other happy, what would you see?

You 2 holding hands, smiling, laughing, having a good time. That’s what happiness looks like.

This is what everyone wants in relationships, but relationships can never be like this all the time.

Relationships have 2 people who have feelings and emotions.

Relationships are roller coasters with ups and downs. Some days everything feels great. Other days you and your partner are walking past each other not acknowledging each other.

But here is where it gets tricky.

If I asked you how you want to treat your partner, what would you say?

Probably something like: treat them with respect, kindness and be there for them.

The problem is when men treat their woman like that all the time, it becomes boring. You’re predictable.

She doesn’t like predictable. She likes the man that can keep her on her toes.

Being the man who is always trying to keep the peace makes you boring. She wants action.

This means not always giving her what she wants. Not always trying to give in to her needs.

Being unpredictable with what we’re doing. Going out on our own without her.

She’ll feel left out, but she will also be more drawn to you.

When she doesn’t know what you’re going to do next, it makes her cling to you more. She’s excited to see what happens.

When she predicts your next moves, you’ll become stale.

You can’t let that happen. You need to keep her wanting more or the relationship will get old.

That’s how a relationship stays together.

That’s how to keep her from wanting to leave.

This strategy can’t work all the time. The man who is always trying to keep his wife on her toes will eventually draw her away.

This strategy needs to happen only a few times a month to keep things from getting stale.

Leave without telling her where you’re going and don’t respond to her call right away. Or stay late for work and have her wonder when you’re getting home.

Let her miss you and long for you.

That will make her feel drawn to you and want you more.

That’s how we rise as men.